Love is forever present, it is all around us. We merely need to be open to it and believe that it is there, that it is good and we that we can touch it. And yet, somehow, we seem to move all around it. We flirt and play and fall deep and enjoy it, and then we move back again.
The power of the heart is nothing less than the purest form of awesome. And the emotionality of life is what drives our desires to either take the next breath or to beg mercifully for our life to come to an end, hoping that will halt our misery and agony. Love is powerful enough to keep us going, and the fear of losing it powerful enough to stop us.
When we meet the eyes of another, platonically or in a romantic sense, we look for acceptance and compassion, we search for the connection, and we crave the touch of deep to deep. There is no exaggeration here, we need to allow our eyes to engage so that the information gathered can travel to our soul and feed our heart. So much of this exchange is unconscious–it is primitive and automatic. We are held captive by that which lies beneath the surface of our conscious mind activity…and this is exactly why we need to tune into our own inner core and become clear about who we are, what we crave, and how we are willing to achieve acquisition.
In every relationship we bring memories of every prior engagement, every other glance, embrace, conversation, and mind game. We are convinced that carrying our baggage along will somehow equip us to sift through the new dynamic and gain insight and understanding for how to meet with success. This, however, falls short of being a healthy plan of action. It is essential for us to simply lay down those bags and become childlike in our belief system as though we are investing in the spirit of Christmas and the belief in Santa–pie-eyed, open-hearted, and without suspicion. In this frame of mind and heart, we experience the magic of the meaning of life and the joyfulness of anticipation of goodness, all goodness.
Why so tough to make it happen…? We come to a place in the life course that is injured. We adopt beliefs that prompt us to recoil instead of approach. We learn the art of bravado and aloofness and permit them to enter into the dynamic as though they will protect our heart–in reality, they build walls that invite deep wounds. I see this in my daily experiences with every person I encounter–there is a shyness, a reserve, an eagerness thwarted, and a set of desires that go unmet and it is because of the ways in which we hold back on love. This is tragic.
I’m striving to be open in every dynamic I have in my life–romantic and otherwise. I push myself to arise in the morning and start the new day with appreciation for my every ability. I follow that exercise with a yoga practice that moves me physically and engages my mind and body and spirit. I focus on wholeness and self-awareness in a sincere effort towards simple peace and happiness…all of which comes to us through our love connections.
I invite you to open the door of your mind and your heart and allow in the belief of “I believe…” and then fill in the blanks with: Santa, the anticipation of goodness, love that is healthy, authentic connection, and genuine grace. Be courageous, tap your inner strength, embrace your human frailty with compassion and greet others in kind…tis the season.
