Life is full of surprises and yet I am never surprised at how people behave when they think their life is really over. When someone is coming to a close on this life experience, they talk about many of the same things and yet the focus is singular —
I WANT MORE TIME. I WANT MORE TIME. I WANT MORE TIME.
I have not heard anyone say they want more money or they want more work or they want more friends. NO.
Time is of the essence. Time to love more and time to say I LOVE YOU to the people that matter, the people who have filled their hearts over and again. I saw that wild comedian, Chris Rock, the other night — not my favorite guy because I find him too brash but he spoke some truths that made everyone roar with laughter. He said, essentially, that if you have never wanted to kill somebody you are madly in love with, if you haven’t felt sick to your guts over somebody you are madly in love with, if you have never known crazy raging jealousy and fury, you’ve never been in love.
Love is intense. LIFE IS INTENSE.
Intense because we feel and we think and we experience these combinations in a way that puzzles us. We want to know what it is we are all doing here on the planet, we want to know what it all means….and when we look into the eyes of another, that someone special who we love and are so vulnerable to, we sort of understand the meaning of life. The meaning emerges from the faith that we place in that person — the belief, the trust. We trust that love will prevail. And yet we falter and we hurt one another. Even in our hurt, however, we reach for more — more love, more ways to find our faith and what we can believe in.
We each want to have a mission. We yearn for a clear vision to direct us on our mission in this life experience. It takes faith to find it.Do you have clarity about what your vision for your life is? Are you on your mission and are you completely filled with passion for it? Every single day I am faced with people who are dying, so are you….even if it is not obvious to you. I am watching people reach in desperation for how to spend the remainder of the time they have come to realize they have left. I have one simple course of dialogue for these times — love now, love with your genuine self, be honest and be clear and be uncluttered in your heart, forgive with your next breath, and embrace the moment as though it is indeed your final one…..for it is then that you will be able to rest in peace.
I invite you now to take your own moment and do the same…..where ever you are and whoever is there, reach out and love and appreciate the breath you are now taking…..have faith your life has meaning….for you have an internal fortitude and strength that has touched many lives and made a fabulous difference.