The word conjures up thoughts and feelings across a range of experiences. This is a simple reality.
We have all had the experience of feeling confident in a relationship–be it about love or friendship, family, or business — and then having something occur that breaks the trust. I use the term breaks instead of stating that it shakes the trust because it seems to me that it is either on stable ground and sitting comfortably or it is not. Much like the damage an earthquake creates, the actions that break trust are very unsettling and it takes authentic labor to restore the former beauty, the security, the feelings that you can count on the ground beneath your feet.
Stephen Covey wrote about trust as a concept ties to time and expense. Indeed.
When trust is high, things move along swiftly because there is no time wasted in querying motives and gamesmanship. This save money and time alike whether it is a business deal, dinner out, or a love affair landed in a court of martial dissolution…….think about how agonizing it is when people do not trust……hours, days, weeks, and long are evaporated into the conversation about why.
My life code is built around a paradigm of being in a position of trusting, I like being able to trust and I lead with it until I discover why I am a foll to continue without hesitation. Once that hesitation takes hold, I am weary and wary. I aim to create repairs but know that I cannot repair what is broken beyond me. The truth is that there are indeed people who live in a set of behaviors that are about hiding their truths and their truths embarrass them. Fact is that we cannot actually hide anything, not from someone who wants to see it all.
The question here is — what do you trust in?
Your own self?
And how do you measure the value of the trust you place…..? Does it create a sense of calm for you? Does it offer something tangible?
I know it is essential, I know when others trust me and when they do not…..I know what I do to earn it and retain it. I know it builds upon my inner strength when I experience it. I know I have no time for anxiety about trust…….………………I just want to reside where it is……