The question is not whether we have love in our life — we do. Love is forever around us and within us and it is a magical component of life that never disappears but we often fail in seeing it. Love is what makes life worth taking the next breath, combined with our unending hope that we will experience a love that reaches our core of meaning and therefore happiness.
Everything becomes possible in the context of love. Love of life, of friends, of God, of family…and of a genuinely significant other. Romantic love offers such desire and possibility for ecstacy; it can be marvelous and it can be devastating. We need to be so very discerning with how we select and allow entry of our partners in love, carefully recognizing that we teach others how we are willing to be treated…….yes, we train people about how it is we are willing to be treated in every manner. and we are forever learning. It begins with selection and continues from there with each and every encounter, conversation, glance, and embrace.
When we have a mishap in our love relationships, especially our significant ones, we enter to a zone of such intense discomfort that we literally become love sick; when prolonged, illness sets into every part of our being as our spirit sinks. The solution is first and foremost allowing self love so that you can find your grounding and feel the inner strength that is genuinely you. You have a beauty and clarity that deserves appreciation of who you are in your own eyes.
Once you are centered, it is time for open dialogue, genteel expressions of affection and concern and acceptance of the choices we make and the reality that we can make new choices. New choices about how a relationship grows, how love becomes ever healthier, and how the story of love and the power of it is a script you can write for the experience and outcome you crave.
Love, healthy and abiding love, is indeed the path in life that is basis of authentic well-being. Love yourself, get ready ready then to have others love you…..and love them right back.