The question ought to percolate the question — trust for what? I am interested in getting you to think about the degree of trust that you place in your own self and also in the relationships you have with others. In Build the Strength Within, I introduce you to the work of that lovely man, Stephen Covey. He wrote the Speed of Trust, which I highly endorse.
He makes it clear for us that there is an economics to trust. As trust increases, the speed at which we can get things done also increases, and that keeps the cost of accomplishment down. However, when trust is low, when it has been damaged, it takes forever to get anything done and that is very expensive. Think of a business deal that has ended badly–we know it and feel it viscerally. A marriage that is either ending in divorce or is damaged has the same peril. We need for there to be a high degree of trust in order for us to be and feel effective and healthy. This not only extends to our relations with others but it is important for our relationship to our core self.
If you are feeling bad about the ways in which you procrastinate doing that which you agreed with your self to do, you feel like you cannot trust your own word. It feels bad. New Year Resolutions are dicey for his very reason. We make a promise and all too often fail.
Why?
There are all sorts of reasons but for the moment here, the issue is about the impact it then has on your psyche, your confidence, your trust-ability. If you cannot trust your own self, who then? And if you cannot trust your own self, how will you ever come to genuinely believe that you can trust anyone else?
You won’t.
In Build the Strength Within, page 14 begins the journey of trust with material about what Erik Erikson teaches us on this topic. Page 152 provides a self assessment followed by a Plan of Action Tool that will revolutionize your spirit, your mind, and your trust in your own goodness.
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