I’ve never suffered much from negative gossip of people. I recently however, as an adult, found out just how bullies are created — through their parents. Although I have written and taught the programs to clients for combating bullies, it somehow didn’t hit me in the face until these past few weeks. Stunning set of events.
My adult life is one that most would describe as pretty good, healthy, successful and peace filled. Sometimes that is true. However, we each have our sufferings, our difficult times. I’ve had my share plus.
In recent conversations I have heard things about my life and my history with others that is filled with simple outright lies. I have heard stories told about me by people who I have been very direct with, telling them outright when what they were doing was wrong — wrong for a group, wrong for a community, wrong for the sake of pure goodness and human decency. It doesn’t sit well with someone who is a bully if they are used to getting away with their bad behavior and you you pronounce them wrong. I am used to taking risks though and understand the penalties. It always hurts though when people who hear the gossip simply take it ion as some form of accurate data and never come to check out the facts.
I find myself reaching to my inner strength, thanking God and the universe of love and abundance for my ability to understand when not to shrink or feel intimidated by the lies people tell, not to embrace the mean spirited reality some people live within. We need to teach our children that there are people who are not deserving of our time and respect, they are simply mean, evil, and in need of insight which is not in our realm to introduce them to.
I pray for the bullies. I mediate peace for their victims. I know in my heart their internal misery is what causes their ugly behavior. We, as a society, need to stand together and tell them to sit down, be quiet, behave, and remember The Golden Rule — Do Unto Others As You Would Have Them Do Unto You.
Know someone in a bad situation of bullies — as an adult? Advise them to follow this advice and break free from the negative chatter, rise beyond it to become your best self.