But he said it with an emphasis on the first syllable that gave it a sound that reminded me of something electrical — yea! I came to think about it and realized the beauty inside of that because indeed the best connections we can ever have in this life are the ones with the spark.
We crave the sparks, especially if we are the exuberants.
The question is what do we do in order to keep the light on, the flashes going, the illumination healthy and not too hot for the touch and never burning out but with a brightness that shines so we can clearly see and yet with a dimmer to provide time for respite? My answer to that is simply that we are authentic in who we are and what we feel, own it and allow it–don’t fake it.
It is within the space of authentic that we feel the ebb and flow, the highs and lows of our energy and our moods. Our authentic connection to others does not have to be on or off, but in any healthy connection, there will be times of greater closeness and times of distance–it is part of a genuine cycle. One of the most difficult parts of this life experience is the ever changing nature of it–at least until we come to understand, anticipate, and appreciate it.
In my life, I purposefully arrange time for my social time and allocate spaces of regeneration time. This is not a reflection of my connectivity and the strength of it but it is a statement about the process of regrouping and reflecting. We each know people who never seem to pull back, they want to be front and center always–but their moods are tough to tolerate. My thought is that they would benefit from some alone time but they cannot somehow wrap their mind around the idea that it would be healthy to allow it. Instead, they are present with irritability and are mistaken for being moody and volatile when it is simply an indication of a need for replenishment. Oftentimes people are hesitant to take the time they need to recoil because they fear how it is perceived. they also fear that the during the time of their absence, people might not miss them. Insecurity reigns inside their heart.
The connections we have to one another are authentic and long lasting. We feel, we touch, we see. We have expectations about the quality of our relationships and find both elation and disappointment in them. If we liken our relations to others in the framework of electricity, the dimmer switch offers comfort, perspective for the change in energy. Instead of allowing angst when we experience changes in the connectivity which often leaves us bewildered, take the time to relax in the dim and replenish. No doubts the vibrance will re-emerge–and you will want to be ready for it.
Connectivity–powerful, natural, human. Allow it for your own self and for each and every relationship you have…it comes in all shapes and sizes.