I recently posted a rather innocent question on Facebook and have been taken aback a the great responses it elicited. It is good to know how much people care and to also know that people are reading.
However, that same post also got people guessing, with great confidence, about who my person was that I had felt put off by. I wrote a longer post about why it simply doesn’t matter. Here it is again for you to ponder….and I will indeed continue to share that which seems to spark interest and engagement.
This fascinating platform…..FB…….I started building a page here in my personal life and also one for my business. My team and I have also built platforms for each of the other many social media outlets. It has been a journey of awareness to track what people respond to, what you lovely fellow beings relate to…some of the time I think that it doesn’t really matter what I compose and post. I am wrong because evidently it does.
You all have been teaching me some important life lessons out here…lessons that make it so clear that vulnerability is an attraction, that genuine open communication about life, struggle, heartache, and also joy is….is all important to share.
Many of you have taken the time to write to me, here and privately, ………encouraging me to share, especially when I am challenged by life and feel sad and disappointed. You have told me that I appear so smart and accomplished that it is almost off putting…….that I seem strong, intimidating, and untouchable. My exposure of feeling pain however, brings me back to the earth and grounds me and makes me touchable and reachable and relatable……I understand but this is new territory for me in many ways.
In my book, Build the Strength Within, I share a few of my heartaches in this life. I also share my strategies for getting through the days that are filled with aches in my heart. My mission and my purpose here is to be guiding others through what I experience and what I learn. I am eager to be of helpful service to people–always. I know about love that is healthy and vibrant and I strive to represent that daily…….authentically, never with a forced effort. I am incapable of phony.
Many of you have tried to figure out who it is that I have written about, who it is that had the attention of my heart, the visions of my mind, and put the tingle in my skin…the point is that all of that is actually moot. Feelings of love are never lost or wasted on another, regardless of what takes place, what unfolds or what does not. Seriously, if you love someone, it is all good…….and that means it doesn’t need to be something that takes form with that particular person of focus. What matters is that you make note of reality for them and with them……and if it hurts somehow in the moment, you regain your footing and quietly and with grace allow yourself to feel genuine gratitude that they inspired feelings you thought you had lost an ability for.
And by the way, it is not that anything terrible or direct even happened……what happened was quiet and took place inside of me……I became aware of something inside of my heart…….and when I looked at the heart of the other, I realized that it was just simply empty in my direction, somewhere I had thought otherwise……..I have a genuine awareness…….it hit me with sadness…….and several times………..but I understand it and it is really fine…….. WHY?
It is fine because I love the truth, what is genuine and I love extending my affections and that will never change, I’ve been at it for my entire life. I am forever getting better at it. I did however, have a long period of time where I thought perhaps my passion was purely for my work…….AH HA–GOOD NEWS–I find I have been inspired and my heart and my thoughts are once gain ignited and vibrant! I have been described as processing swiftly…..so true. And so I am in the beautiful position of being so enriched again in the romantic side of my life……..
I am feeling blessed, healthy, fortunate……and so very appreciated by each of you….for your kindness, your wisdom, your attentiveness here……I thank you.
It will be fun to share the adventure of my romantic journey here as it blossoms……..